← Ways of Wa/onderment


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Facilitation Body-led learning spaces, talks, rituals, journeys, and collaborative experiments for practicing attention together.

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Facilitation for joyful attention

I gather people to practice creating.

For nearly two decades, I have designed learning spaces where people can notice what is happening, try something with their bodies, make meaning together, and be changed by the questions rather than hurried toward an answer.

My work has grown through kink and Leather, Somatic Gendering, Sexological Bodywork, queer and trans community care, meditation, harm reduction, scar care, ritual, storytelling, and a great deal of learning by doing. I work with the bodies actually in the room: their hesitations, humour, knowledge, power, desire, and difference.

I am especially interested in teaching teachers: supporting facilitators, practitioners, educators, and culture makers to become more responsive, playful, and precise in how they hold people and possibility.

I help build the conditions in which more of what is present can become usable.

Open the facilitator’s drawer: container, connection, culture


Ways I facilitate

Open whichever doorway catches your attention.

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Experiential facilitation & co-creation

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Facilitator and practitioner development

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Ritual hospitality and private experiences

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Conversations & collaborative experiments

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Selected work

A few face-up threads from a much larger body of practice.

Queer Leather Meditation

I joined Queer Leather Meditation as a host in 2023 and now share responsibility for tending the space. Together, we bring queer Leather experience into conversation with presence, power, negotiation, metta, non-self, witnessing, spiritual reparenting, and embodied relationship.

Practitioner education

With Trans Care BC and other practitioner communities, I have taught Narrative Care, traveling while trans, erotic agency, trauma-sensitive embodied practice, and the difference between repeating inherited stories about trans people and helping those stories transform.

Queering scar care

I have convened practitioners, facilitated public panels and hands-on showcases, hosted online community learning with Kota Rook, and created circles and practical resources. The work approaches scars as living tissue, lived history, sensation, and possible erotic access.


Two rooms with the doors open

Somatic Gendering Playgrounds →

A six-week participatory curriculum built with Kota Rook and the Center for Gender Advocacy: sensation, art-making, ritual, gendering joy, negotiated witnessing, and support made portable.

30 Days of Pleasure →

A distributed practice garden held with Kota Rook and guest stewards: thirty invitations across sensation, dance, gendering, breath, and the ordinary anatomy of attention.